So as I found out later in life it is actually a good thing to get to know people from a different religion and culture than your own. I don't think it is just the case for me, but this is the case for anyone that is open to learning and exploring different ideas and feelings all over the world.
So the idea of staying in your own culture and religion, and being mistrustful towards the "stranger's feeling" is actually not valid and quite harmful towards global relationships and connections. The need to connect beyond your own borders is actually quite strong when people are curious and openminded to explore with a sincere heart and intention.
Through the travel of life for me I realized that being non judgmental, flexible and openminded are actually quite important. However the saying of being forgiving and not forgetting is for me also a harmful and dishonest quote. The reality is that people don't easily forgive, nor forget, and if they have to choose, it is easier to forget than forgive (when someone did something to you that was harmful with the wrong intention, especially if you cannot turn back to change the consequence).
The Reality of Forgiveness
-Forgiveness can take place when someone asks for forgiveness and is aware that he or she made a mistake in the past, according to their own conscious, and not your judgment.
-Forgiveness is a choice of the other person depending on the effect and intention the person had on the other.
-Forgiveness is not the same as forgetting, as forgetting is easier than forgiving. Sometimes people just want to forget but cannot forgive.
-It is always in the right mind good to say "I'm sorry" and apologize for any mistake that you truly made, if you are aware of it. Not saying "I'm sorry" if you don't know what you did wrong or if you don't believe you are wrong in the first place, yet apologizing is a way of connecting to the other person.
-Not apologizing when necessary means also being arrogant and not able to bend you knee for the other, meaning, it is not a humble mind. This is not religious and doesn't contribute to mutual respect, value and connection.
-Forcing other people to forgive, forget or ask forgiveness doesn't work in a healthy mind and body, as it is a form of abusive mind, if someone is not ready yet. This is difficult to deal with and takes patience and time to the pace of the people involved.
-When forgiveness is not mutual one can only pray for Mercy and Forgiveness, which is the state of mind of Religion.
So in the end the actions are valued according to the intensions, and not just the effect, so people can stay innocent if they did something by mistake, and people are judged if they did something wrong with the malefic intention of doing the harm that was also leading to the harmful act and had the harmful consequence.